People – Pleasing Hazard Causing Chronic Stress

Chronic StressMany would never dare to even thinking out of it – having a chronic stress in today life, a life full of distractions and issues. So, everyone will try to pleased almost everyone they know; so that they will never have to deal any conflict in there future. At their lost, most of them are doing it the wrong way – making a ticking time bomb of pleasing people even it will cost their future and life.

Extreme people’s pleasing can be a leading factors for many major diseases such as heart disease, diabetes, cancer, obesity and all manner of maladies related to chronic inflammation. It also leads to depression, anxiety and a host of psychological issues.

Chronic people pleasing equals chronic stress. Please take note – when living a life full of stress – our physiology are at risk.


1. Social Session. When ever you get along with the crowd, never give out yourself toward their mentality, which is often unhealthy. Overeating and drinking heavily while enjoying the session might cause you losing virtue as a result.

2. Acceptance. People’s Pleasing goes hand in hand with social acceptance – the course of anxiety. We pleased to get approval, which rarely we experienced no matter how many time pleasing others. Why? Its due to other people lack possessing power to give us deep approval that we seek, ultimately.

3. Pleaser Autopilot. When you are on autopilot as people’s pleaser, interestingly the people you are pleasing end up taking you for granted. Ultimately, they will take advantage of you by not reciprocating, leaving you with a feeling of chronic resentment.

4. Support-less. Human nature are blend through support from each other. People’s pleaser, are sadly tend to get less support. They tend to give it all for free, anyway, anyhow  no matter what its value and that makes them not worthy by others – just a reference when needed and a burden to help.

5. Meets never met. Being a people pleaser, we will highly disregard and neglecting our own needs. Taking time for ourself, relaxing, learning and growing as an individual takes a back seat to the demands of others – will far more put you out of this issues.

Over Pleasing is Hazardous.

Let us agree on this term – serving others is noble, while pleasing people at all cost is bad. The  worse thought that people’s pleaser had is being useful to others, so that once they need help – help will be given. This is totally wrong and hazardous!

Make a change – instead of being a people’s pleaser become one that only help when needed. Change it now!

Voice Out – Simplified Things And Planning On A Mini E-Book Before End Of 2014

Its hazy morning for today start up, but am feeling great cause after so long – I am writing writing again. I’ve taken crucial action toward many in hand project this past 2 month (since early 2014). Closing a few project (cooperation with business partner and friends) such as (5 years old company which focus on domain, hosting and website services – inactive partner are the main reason of shut-down) and (2 years old company which selling Malaysia University English Test e-book online – mutual understanding of goals achieved are the main reason we choose to shut it off and distributed it for free, which I’ll cover this here).

So, this year am going to focus more on my own project – this personal blog (going to make it full and active again), (Madnilk Resources – Apparel, Printing And Premium Items Solution – my online homed based business).

Am very enthusiastic for this year cause its all about me and me to give to others – can’t wait to make many move/change while enhancing what already in hand. Owh not to forget that I am targeting to publish personal mini e-book of my own before the end of this year. Please support me.

Voice Out – Being Away And Now I Am Back

It’s been awhile since my last post, hello everyone.

This few months I’ve been away from keyboard for blogging purpose – my main interest, such a shame on me. All this time due to many reason which mainly financial basis have taken me far from my personal passion; knowledge and sharing about all of it.

I have been in the blog sphere since 2006 while producing nothing in comparable result by ratio of time investment versus profit return (numerous aspect), have make me wonder – darn, I should start writing back seriously; this time properly and constantly!!!

Design comes later in my life but hey – blogging can be meant for many things and I really wonder do people will follow me back? After being away from blogging keyboard I really missed the old time.

My personal business life are getting stable and calmer around the corner – which makes me think to start all over again on blogging intensely. Guys – need support to walk the path again 🙂


Education – Games Essential Approach In Classroom.

Who doesn’t like to play games? Not only that games are fun, interactive, and social. Furthermore games are great tolls of learning process. Many teacher starting to realize that games really help them in class – effectively. There are no more such things as “playing around in class room term when its actually help improving student marks in exam.

Games new trend in education sector add flair toward student engagement into more tedious purposes that enhance learning capabilities. All this are with surplus element of competition which motivates and energizes students.

There are several games which adore teachers out there – So, I’m going to share some of it and let us enjoy this reading session together.

Memory – Such simplified version of Bingo, it works great with phonics, simple match expressions, for ESL student (think images and words), spelling and states with capitals.

We can create our own version of memory suitable and accordingly with our target focus/student. Once you have your games it will be flow as long as ya’ being a teacher.

Around the world – Some student prefer speed type of games – they prefer things that are easy to play, games that don’t need any hard thinking  sit down while enjoying thing which in the mean time give out knowledge.  This kind of game are mole like act as time filler – Quick game. It work best with a flashcards – their subject derive from many categories – can be anything within the rage of vocab, sight words, spelling ad many more.

We’ll have all the student stand up, in a straight manner of first student in front the rest and go on. We show the flashcard during the game and who ever being the fastest to answer correctly move on. The concept behind it are to be the best in the whole classroom.

Student Creativity – What really best to end every games is something deep to student heart and creativity. Who doesn’t like to be in the lime light? Showcasing one skills, knowledge, or talents? Every living human does – especially students. Push a drive toward student so that they get to shine when games that they create are used in class.

This are something teacher normally do until after the holiday break to revamp students kick start spirits by utilizing possible variety creative games base on their ideas and creativity.

Frankly said, there are many games out there which you can Google out. Crucial part is to create possible games that might spark the creativity toward learning among student until the can create or innovate some into their own version. Enjoy your read and happy sharing 🙂

People – Art And Freedom Of Life.

Life so beautiful that people might never realize it, yeah that’s what I mean. People are too blind to see the utmost of God creation. We tend to see what ourselves wanna see and dream off. Nothing to bother and think – it’s only in the name of any mean to achieve what we really want. Believe me there are art of freedom within what we choose that God create for us.

The art and freedom come one set which never be apart. Once we cut out the link then everything that we do is meaningless and stray away from our main purpose. The art and freedom of life are relates with human destiny. We are what we choose, yes indeed. But, we must put things that choosing it from what God put on par for us.

We might want to be a anything that our heart desire and this topic will lead toward many direction. So I should begin by briefly indicating where I suppose to take it. Art and freedom of life.

I wanna talk more about art than individual works of life in general – where art as a specific form of human endeavor. In search of intrinsic relationship between art in that human sense and freedom of life. I’m not that great in this kind of things as any level of such scholar – this is what I understand through reading many information plus my own experience. In other words, to approach this topic on a public/common philosophical level and see where that leads us.

I will do this through in terms of three different approaches to the philosophy of art.

We’ll start with analytic aesthetics in comparison of art and the passing time (history/past experience), where art of life might be said about endure. Things that have purposes that occur and only to those who realize can comprehend.  Things that happened should be held step back for a moment and approach on somewhat broader front. Its so called modern theories of abstraction of reality/world which sometimes label as life/human experience. Through this art approach we can know a better freedom. If art is, as some maintain, a source of ‘knowledge’, then it is again ‘reality’ or ‘the world’ that it is said to give us knowledge about on how to gain freedom of life. Everything about choosing the right freedom with past experience.

Next we shall focus on critical theory which emphasize by many source seem no more inclined than their analytic counterparts to think carefully about what they mean by the concept of reality in the context of art. Some might said that art of freedom depend on the analytic counterpart to think carefully the concept of reality. What are our utmost nature as human being? Which emphasize our art of freedom relating our purpose of existence – origin of human nature.

Last, theory of art within freedom of life is something interesting to know for everyone else, which another alternative thinking toward better life. A story about of both revolutionary and extreme enlighten concept. Much defer from both analytic aesthetics or critical theory, this theory of art recognize within the world in which we live not some define collective reality. Life in term of art respond with metaphysical reality. Life theory of art is the fundamental emotion man feels in the face of life, beginning with his own – which then express toward others. It is the fundamental awareness, known to each of us. Is what we choose that might or truly relates with people around us – families, friends and many other things in life.

True art and freedom of life are something we gather onward in life – never afraid to makes mistakes as long as it don’t affect others. When you try to turn back on the rightful path do believe that our Creator are there guiding as long as we eager to choose the better side of humanity – by nature, art and destiny.

Online – Perception Within Marketing – Is It Everything?

Perception within marketing is something I would like to differentiate as honey and bee. It is something that crucial and identical to an extent that people always pursuit. Everything that said and done about marketing are thing about transparencies and being honest. That is not what I going to talk about within this entry. It more to the influence of perception in term of gaining trust within marketing agenda.

Human mind state is an engine power up by deeply complex as an organ that fuel up everything that run within our head. In case of giving away such niche impression toward people educational built up for brands and individuals marketing, “Is perception enough to make the contact?”

Perception is all about influence, but does it come in handy for many cases?

Many case study have shown that perception vary from individual point of view (there are vast individuals perception out there). Which mean not every single marketing plan can be execute to different group of viewers. That why there exist thing that we call “target or focus” market which that specific what so call as ‘product’ can be convey to specific group of people. Perception is something we set up toward achieving such goal in term of gaining attentions and attracts viewer to become valuable prospects.

It’s easy to send subtle cues to other people physically or mentally in order to get them to associate certain positive traits in their mind which referred as “the power of suggestion”. This aspect make perception easily manipulated because people are less likely to guard their perception than their beliefs. Understanding this relationship is important when considering the implications of other studies and how those implication apply to marketing effort.

The thought of making such trust on recommendation within people heart are something can’t be neglect. Such recommendation are likely entrust when it comes form friends of relative, especially ones with long-term brand experience more than any other external parties. Well, when you put it that way, it’s not such a surprise, is it?

Veteran communications specialist Shel Holtz does not think it should be shocking, either, and criticizes competing viewpoints that trust is the most important metric in marketing.

“What ever happened to the importance of building awareness?” ask Holtz at his blog.  I may have greater trust in the next cube, but where did he hear about it? And if he heard about it from a trusted friends or family member, they read about it from a source that gets broad distribution. The information has to start somewhere.

To gain trust we must blast it within something that people already entrust their credibility and point of view. A good place to start, it could be argued especially if a marketer has strong organic ranking with specific keywords. Exposure to the brand, with reinforcement along the discovery process. Send a subtle message to a viewers that will sit somewhat idly and relaxed in the perception areas.

If not there, a nice endorsement from someone respected is also a good start, just for those subtle associations people don’t take too seriously but do allow to alter their behavior just slightly, either negative or positively.

This is why branding professional are so careful about the person spreading their message. It’s not as much about perception alone, but it’s an accumulation of association and trust.

Education – Make Use Law Of Attraction.

Many would say that achieving one goal is something hard to reach. They always said that people who had achieve their target and goal have something so called secret. The fact that ‘they’ do is something that common as knowledge among those who know about psychology, which state as cognitive dissonance.

In certain study people might have feel the occurrence but they never realize it because of their self-ignorance. Sit back and let we share it all here.

For an example, you may have noticed that if you change anything in your life, you start to notice that there are many more of them on the “road”. This phenomenon happens due to how our mind filters information that going through our self-awareness all the time. Our senses only notice the things that come through the filters ans those thing that interest us and it works at our unconscious level.

So, what is the next step?

All we have to do to use ‘the’ feature of this mind state, is with changing on things that we wish to notice within our unconscious mind state. This is amazingly easy thing to do. There are many methods that will do, but which ever you choose to use, please be careful on what you wish for because it will come true – if you work it right.

There are several pattern of ways, but let us focus with just only two.

Making mind map pattern note about things that you would like to do or have during period of time term. Put down anything that you want to happen however impossible base on your current state. Use this as basis for developing the ideas and double check everything with run through the goal setting process for each one. Make define and firm but never too precise (its a lot easier to achieve some goal that set to achieve rather being specific). Like wise, I want to have a BMW’s 3 series car – rather than ‘that’ car with specific modification and etc. Make your decision until ya’ feel happy and start with the execution plans.

Take cut up pictures from any magazine that have suite your ideal mind map pattern. Now, get a large sheet of paper and arrange the pictures that you have selected in any way that you like and stick them down. Some people make them sequential. Others prefer a random placement around central theme or even a tree or plant with the images hanging from the branches. Now stick the collage on a convenient wall in your house so that as you  live your normal life, you’ll walk past and notice it in your peripheral vision.

Another excellent way of setting your unconscious to accomplish things is the time line technique of putting a goal into your future line. Where you set some definite time frame of what will you gain in term of given period. This technique is quite difficult unless you already assemble solution with assist to each of your goals.

Of course, you can do both and have double the fun! I’ve done this technique my own way and right now, I’m walking through it.

So, just have a go and see what happens.

Inspiration – Appreciate Things That We Have, Before We Loose It – While We Had It.

Appreciate things that we have, before we loose it – while we had it!!! Human are meant to be such creatures that never satisfied with what ‘we’ have. It is normal when people always tent to forget what they have instead envy of others.

So, today I’m here to share a story and advice. Enjoy your reading:

Story of a blind girl:

A blind girl hated herself because she was blind.

She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend.
He was always there for her.

She told her boyfriend, ‘If I could only see the world, I would marry

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When

the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her

He asked her, ‘Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?’

The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind.

The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her.

She hadn’t expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her
life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying:
‘Take good care of your eyes, my dear, before they were yours, they were
mine. ‘

This is how the human brain often works when our ‘status changes’.

Only a very few remember what life was like before and who was always by
their side in the most painful situations.

Life is a Gift:

Today before you say an unkind word – Think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food – Think of someone who
has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife – Think of someone who’s
crying out for a companion.

Today before you complain about life –
Think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before you argue about your dirty house that someone didn’t clean or
sweep -Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive – Think of someone who must
walk the same distance.

And when you are tired and complain about your job – Think of the
unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

Before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another – Remember
that not one of us is without error.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down – Put a smile on your
face and thank God you’re alive and still around.


p/s: I always try to enjoy this very life of mine to the fullest and hope everyone do the same.

People – They Walk Among Us – Does It Happen?.

Hello everyone, hope that you in great healths and conditions. I’m having great day today especially after reading an e-mail from my fellow friend. This caught my eye’s and make me want to share with all of you.

Something about life that makes it unique – what kind of story will we heard about from a vast number of human populations (several billion). Its makes me wonders, ” Does the story that I heard really happens?”

Hey, the possibility are there, in facts it might be infinity as long there are humans around. Anyway, do read and leave your comments cause I really need to know your feedback.


‘Millionaire’ Contestant.. .
Makes Worst Use Of Lifelines Ever!

NEW YORK – resident Kathy Evans brought humiliation to her friends and
when she set a new standard for stupidity with her appearance
on the popular TV show, ‘Who Wants To Be A Millionaire. ‘

Evans, a 32-year-old wife and mother of two, got stuck on the first
and proceeded to make what fans of the show are dubbing ‘the absolute
worst use
of lifelines ever.’ After being introduced to the show’s host
Meredith Vieira, Evans was posed with a typically easy initial $100

The question was: ‘Which of the following is the largest?’

A) A Peanut
B) An Elephant
C) The Moon
D) Hey, who you calling large?

Immediately Mrs. Evans was struck with an all consuming panic as she did
readily know the answer. ‘Hmm, oh boy, that’s a toughie,’ said Evans,
as Vieira did her level best to hide her disbelief.
‘I mean, I’m sure I’ve heard of some of these things before,
but I have no idea how large they would be.’

Evans made the decision to use the first of her three lifelines, the
Answers A and D were removed, leaving her to decide which was
bigger, an elephant or the moon. However, faced with an incredibly
easy question, Evans still remained unsure.

‘Oh! It removed the two I was leaning towards!’ exclaimed Evans.
‘Darn. I think I better phone a friend.’
Mrs. Evans asked to be connected with her friend
Betsy, who is an office assistant.

‘Hi Betsy! How are you? This is Kathy! I’m on TV!’ said Evans,
wasting the first seven seconds of her call.
‘Ok, I got an important question. Which of the following is the
B, an elephant, or C, the moon. 15 seconds hun.’
Betsy quickly replied that the answer was C, the moon.
Evans proceeded to argue with her friend for the remaining ten seconds.
‘Betsy, are you sure?’ said Evans. ‘How sure are you? Duh, that can’t be

To everyone’s astonishment, the moronic Evans declined to take her
advice. ‘I just don’t know if I can trust Betsy. She’s not all that
So I think I’d like to ask the audience,’ said Evans.

Asked to vote on the correct answer, the audience returned 98% in favor
answer C, ‘The Moon.’ Having used up all her lifelines,
Evans then made the dumbest choice of her life.

‘Wow, seems like everybody is against what I’m thinking,’ said the
too-stupid-to- live Evans. ‘But you know, sometimes you just got to go
your gut. So, let’s see… I’m going to have to go with B, an elephant.
Final answer.’

Evans sat before the dumbfounded audience, the only one waiting with
bated breath –
and was told that she was wrong, and that the answer was in fact, C,
‘The Moon.’
Caution…they walk among us!
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –
This one is equally unbelievable. (No comments needed!)

They Walk Among Us!
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –

Some guy bought a new fridge for his house.
To get rid of his old fridge, he put it in his front yard and hung a
sign on it saying: ‘Free to good home. You want it, you take it.’
For three days the fridge sat there without anyone looking twice.
He eventually decided that people were too mistrustful of this deal.
So he changed the sign to read: ‘Fridge for sale $50.’

The next day someone stole it!

They walk amongst us!
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –

*One day I was walking down the beach with
some friends when someone shouted….
‘Look at that dead bird!’
Someone looked up at the sky and said…’where? ‘

They walk among us!

———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –
While looking at a house, my brother asked the
estate agent which direction was north because
he didn’t want the sun waking him up every morning.
She asked, ‘Does the sun rise in the north?’
My brother explained that the sun rises in the east
and has for sometime. She shook her head and said,
‘Oh, I don’t keep up with all that stuff….’

They Walk Among Us!
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –
My colleague and I were eating our lunch in our cafeteria,
when we overheard an admin girl talking about the
sunburn she got on her weekend drive to the beach.
She drove down in a convertible, but said
she ‘didn’t think she’d get sunburned
because the car was moving’.

They Walk Among Us!
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –
My sister has a lifesaving tool in her car
which is designed to cut through a seat belt
if she gets trapped. She keeps it in the car boot.

They Walk Among Us!
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –
I was hanging out with a friend when we saw a woman
with a nose ring attached to an earring by a chain.
My friend said, ‘Ouch! The chain must rip
out every time she turns her head!”
I had to explain that a person’s nose and ear
remain the same distance apart no
matter which way the head is turned…

They Walk Among Us !
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –
I couldn’t find my luggage at the airport baggage area and.
went to the lost luggage office and reported the loss.
The woman there smiled and told me not to worry
because she was a trained professional and
said I was in good hands. ‘Now,’ she asked me,
‘Has your plane arrived yet?’….
(I work with professionals like this.)

They Walk Among Us!
———— ——— ——— ——— ——— ——— –
While working at a pizza parlour I observed a man
ordering a small pizza to go. He appeared to be alone and
the cook asked him if he would like it cut
into 4 pieces or 6. He thought about it for some time
then said ‘Just cut it into 4 pieces; I don’t think I’m hungry
enough to eat 6 pieces.

p/s: Sometimes I do wonder, “Maybe I’ve done the same mistakes somewhere, but no one notice – lucky me!!”